Struggling with self confidence? Check out these 3 confidence boosters to help you with building up your self esteem! #confidence #tips

We are told that confidence is sexy. That confident people get further in life. They earn more, they dare more. But we already know that. Of course, we want to be confident! So the real question is how to build confidence?

Luckily there are a few things that can help us improve our self-esteem. Confidence is a skill and it can be learned. We can even do it by only investing a few minutes a day!

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How to build confidence: Positive self-talk

Do you look in the mirror in the morning and tell yourself how great you are? No? Then it’s about time you start!

How to build confidence: With positive self talk and positive affirmations!

The positive effect of motivational self-talk on confidence is scientifically proven! In the conducted study not only did cognitive anxiety decrease, but self-confidence also improved significantly. This had a positive effect on performance. And guess what? When your performance increases, your confidence improves again! Positive self-talk, when used regularly, is really a gift that keeps on giving.

If you need more pointers about this topic, check out my post about positive affirmations.

Learn how to break the Habit of Self-Doubt and Build Real Confidence by taking this Class by Mel Robbins over at CreativeLive*! You’ll get practical, actionable advice on beating impostor syndrome and leaving your irrational fears behind.

How to build confidence: Fix your posture

When it comes to your posture the old saying of “faking it till you make it” is scientifically correct. Stand up tall. Imagine you are being incredibly proud of yourself and everything you do. Now physically get into that posture. Yes, now. Just do it. And keep it!

How to build confidence: This woman has great posture and exudes confidence. You can have that, too!

Can you feel the difference? This happens because your posture influences your hormones. By “power posing” your stress hormones decrease and your testosterone rises. This makes us indeed feel more powerful!

The effect of posture on confidence works the other way around too! So make sure to check in on your posture regularly. If you want to be confident, you first have to pose like it!

My personal favorite is standing as if I was wearing Superman’s cape. Always works and it’s a very encouraging visual, too.

If you feel like you need a little more help on improving your slouched shoulders, check out my post on how to fix your posture. It contains several exercises to go from “meh” to “yeah”!

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How to build confidence: Take action – regardless of how you feel about it

Remember the last time you did something a little bit out of your comfort zone? And do you remember that thrilling feeling afterward, when the perceived “danger” was over? How about getting that feeling more often?

If you are wondering how to build confidence, this is the answer. It is the easiest and at the same time the hardest way to build up your self-esteem.

What is the thing you “would do if you were confident”? Talk to new people? Apply for that awesome job you want? Whatever it is, start by doing steps towards it. Training steps, if you will.

If you want to be more confident when interacting with people, maybe start by simply looking people in the eyes when you pass them on the street. For many people, this is already a difficult step. And difficult in this context means: That’s exactly what we want to do!

The more you expose yourself to situations like that, the more your brain will learn that

a) there is no real danger here


b) you can actually do all of these things! And do them well. Without dying!

You are basically training your confidence like you would any muscle in your body. Keep repeating exercises that put just the right amount of stress on the muscle.

For learning how to take action even though your brain tells you otherwise, I wholeheartedly recommend the book “The 5 second rule*” by Mel Robbins! It has helped me so much in actually going for what I want to do, instead of worrying about what might go wrong.

How to build confidence: Recap

So to recap: If you have been asking yourself “How to build confidence?”, do these three things for the next 30 days.

  1. Make positive self-talk a fixed part of your day. Ideally, do it in the morning and in front of a mirror.
  2. Fix your posture and do “power posing” when you feel in need of a little extra boost!
  3. Do something daring every day. Doesn’t matter if big or small. Just dare to do the thing you secretly want to do!

Sticking with this will make an incredible difference! And who knows where you will go from there, with your new found confidence?

Confidence building doesn't have to be super complex. It is simple, but not necessarily easy. Check out these 3 tips on how to build confidence!

Is confidence an easy topic for you or are you still working on it? I’d love to hear your stories in the comments!

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